Sometimes it’s hard to figure out if you’re getting it right or not. This thought was going through Jack’s mind as he looked around the cabin in one of those moments of boredom one experiences on a 17 hour flight. He glanced at his daughter who’d been staring out the window for some time at clouds far below. It looked like boredom was mutually felt, conversation having been exhausted long before.
It was impossible to know what was going through her mind at this time. With High School finished she was en-route to four years of college in the US, half a world away from her family. Her face registered no emotion as Jack glanced anxiously at her. He would get her settled, but then she was on her own until next vacation. How would she handle the rough and tumble of College in an unfamiliar land?
Lives are absorbed in routine day to day activities, and occasional bumps that come our way. We sometimes fail to grasp how important family connections are, and how these connections impact each life in a positive or negative way. It needs time, proximity and dedication to make family relationships work.
Humans have been programmed for social interaction. When this is denied it can lead to disfunctionality. The world is littered with broken people who’ve ceased to function effectively because they’ve been denied nurture and encouragement from family members and close associates.
These depressing thoughts whirled around in Jack’s head as he sat fidgeting in his seat. In teen years parents wonder about many things. They wonder if they’ve adequately prepared their children during early years for the get real rough ride ahead. They see their children beginning to challenge positions held by parents as absolutes. Parents wonder if they’ve been successful in balancing work and recreation activities so family bonding is strengthened. They wonder what kind of impression these developing adults carry with them as they’ve observed parents during those impressionable years.
Thinking these thoughts was too much for Jack; he had to settle his doubts. Turning to his daughter he broke the silence with a question.
“You’ve spent your growing up years following us as we went from one job location to another, from one country to another. If you’d been able to plan your future for yourself what kind of growing up environment would you have chosen?”
The girl turned to face her Father in surprise; then glanced out the window mulling Jack’s question over in her head.
Finally she turned to Jack and smiled. “There were difficult times as we adjusted to new friends and new places.” She paused and glanced out the window again.
Jack waited anxiously as he watched his daughter process her thoughts.
“If I had the power to see my future and compare it with other possible scenarios I’d make the same decisions you’ve chosen for us.
Jack sat back in his seat with a sigh of relief. He knew his daughter was being generous with her remarks but it was what he needed to hear. He picked up his book with the satisfied look of a Father who was now convinced his daughter would handle her future life adjustments satisfactorily.
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